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“But she had recently come to think that in such unhappy times- when the odds were so high against personal happiness- to find love was miraculous, and to fulfill it as best two people could was what really mattered.” – Bernard Malamud

I recently came across this quote, and it really spoke to me. But, alas, on this Valentine’s Day, this resonates with me because this is where I am on the love continuum.

I am not writing today to be all starry-eyed, Valentine’s Day love-fest. I know that there are plenty of people who have a strong dislike for this holiday. Whether it’s the holiday-card-manufactured-obligatory-feeling of the whole thing, or the frustration with the fact that society seems to dictate that you must be part of a couple, attached, to be happy.

Thus, I propose that we turn the love around. Of course, if you have a sweetie and you want to spend the day doing sweetie things for him or her, by all means….

But, if you don’t, or even if you do and you just don’t want to give in to the forced “Hallmark-edness” of it all, there are other ways to spread love than by chocolates and roses. For one, spread it on yourself! What better person to celebrate on the lovey-est of all holidays than YOU!?

Treat yourself to something special! Enjoy a good time with friends, or pets, or a good book. Appreciate yourself for all that you are, love yourself today.

Valentine’s Day is also a perfect opportunity for you to reassess your New Year’s Resolutions – the things we all do to encourage our own self-improvement. It’s been about 6 weeks since the start of the year, just enough time to have put in a good effort that has since fallen silent.,

Love yourself today, you deserve it.

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball